Well, the time has come once again to discuss what everyone's going to be getting me for Christmas this year. I know that everyone loves me, and wants to get me things that ROCK, so I thought I'd offer a few suggestions.
I have a wish list on www.Amazon.com You can see a link to it on the side bar, but, sadly, it doesn't seem to take you directly to my list. But you can find me if you type in my first and last name. You don't know my last name? Well, then you probably aren't obligated to buy me a gift. Please take note that Buffy season three is STILL on my wishlist.
I like cool/funny tees. I have really been impressed by the ones on http://www.bustedtees.com/male and http://www.defunker.com/
I also really want this shirt: http://www.cafepress.com/buy/Mormon/-/pv_design_prod/p_1513549.70530643/pNo_70530643/id_13979391/fpt_/opt_/c_360/pg_
Wow, that was a long link. Just FYI: I wear a women's xl or a men's med or large.
Of course, I want an MP3 player, but not enough to actually buy one myself.
Ummm. . .yeah. I guess I'm an easy sell this year. Go forth! Buy me stuff! I strongly encourage everyone to make a list, it'll make my life a lot easier. :)
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
"Mother-In-Law" is a stereotype for a reason
Since Lawrence's parents left, I have spent a fair amount of brain power thinking about things they said. Well, actually, I've been thinking about things Lawrence's mom said. His dad is an absolute sweetheart and Lawrence claims that his dad just adores me and approves of our union wholeheartedly. He also spent some time showing me how to saw on my violin, so that was fun. He says that if they ever move down here, he'll teach me to play! And, he wouldn't let Lawrence pay for anything while they were here, telling him to save his money for a ring. :)
Lawrence's mom, on the other hand, has caused me a fair amount of increased forehead wrinkles. Lawrence says that she said that she likes me and didn't say anything else about me, bad or good. Lawrence's mom is VERY negative and has no qualms about expressing her opinions, so Lawrence and his sister both agree that her not saying bad things about me is a very good sign. But. she did say some things that bothered me. Like she said, "Lawrence, is it Margie that's fattening you up? Because you've always been thin as a board!" Ok. So, is it just me, or does it sound like she's saying that I'm fat, so I must be responsible for Lawrence's increased belly size? (Which is something he had when I started dating him, thank you very much.) When I pressed Lawrence to find out what his parents thought of my appearance, he reluctantly admitted that his mother said only one thing, "Well, Margie's certainly not like Becky is she?" (Becky is Lawrence's first wife, and Lawrence's mother's favorite bashing topic is Becky, just FYI.) Lawrence agreed that I am nothing like Becky, but wanted to know exactly what she meant. She said, "Well, she doesn't care about her appearance like Becky does." Um. I tried really hard to look nice that night, so I was a little offended by this. Ok. Not a little, more like a lot. My response when Lawrence told me this was somewhere along the lines of, "WHAT is THAT supposed to mean?!?" Lawrence claims up and down that Becky was always the kind of yuppyish chameleon that had to have every hair in place and her nails perfectly manicured, with just the perfect name brand outfit and her personality tailor made for the occasion, and that I'm not like that; I dress how I feel and I don't wear much makeup and I'm me no matter whom I'm with. Ok, well it sure as hell sounded a lot worse than that, but whatever. I won't be criticized by a woman who wears a thick layer of metallic baby blue eye shadow. So these are examples of things she said, but I haven't even gotten to the worst part yet. Her only concern about Lawrence marrying me is. . .you guessed it. . .Ethan. (I hear from Lawrence that is.) She is absolutely convinced and will not be moved on the idea that ADHD means "Special Needs," like rides the short bus "special." She even asked Lawrence if they were going to try to mainstream Ethan at school. Hello! He IS mainstream! He doesn't have to wear a helmet to walk or anything! He gets to write with sharp pencils and everything! It doesn't help at all that he acts like a nine year old but looks like a twelve year old, that really just confirms her beliefs. For some reason, I find it very offensive and disconcerting that she thinks my child is retarded. I should mail her his standardize test results showing that he, on average, scores in the high ninetieth percentile. And I find it even more disconcerting that this is STILL bothering me even though she's been gone for a week and a half. Oh well. At least she lives in California, ya know what I'm saying?!?
Lawrence's mom, on the other hand, has caused me a fair amount of increased forehead wrinkles. Lawrence says that she said that she likes me and didn't say anything else about me, bad or good. Lawrence's mom is VERY negative and has no qualms about expressing her opinions, so Lawrence and his sister both agree that her not saying bad things about me is a very good sign. But. she did say some things that bothered me. Like she said, "Lawrence, is it Margie that's fattening you up? Because you've always been thin as a board!" Ok. So, is it just me, or does it sound like she's saying that I'm fat, so I must be responsible for Lawrence's increased belly size? (Which is something he had when I started dating him, thank you very much.) When I pressed Lawrence to find out what his parents thought of my appearance, he reluctantly admitted that his mother said only one thing, "Well, Margie's certainly not like Becky is she?" (Becky is Lawrence's first wife, and Lawrence's mother's favorite bashing topic is Becky, just FYI.) Lawrence agreed that I am nothing like Becky, but wanted to know exactly what she meant. She said, "Well, she doesn't care about her appearance like Becky does." Um. I tried really hard to look nice that night, so I was a little offended by this. Ok. Not a little, more like a lot. My response when Lawrence told me this was somewhere along the lines of, "WHAT is THAT supposed to mean?!?" Lawrence claims up and down that Becky was always the kind of yuppyish chameleon that had to have every hair in place and her nails perfectly manicured, with just the perfect name brand outfit and her personality tailor made for the occasion, and that I'm not like that; I dress how I feel and I don't wear much makeup and I'm me no matter whom I'm with. Ok, well it sure as hell sounded a lot worse than that, but whatever. I won't be criticized by a woman who wears a thick layer of metallic baby blue eye shadow. So these are examples of things she said, but I haven't even gotten to the worst part yet. Her only concern about Lawrence marrying me is. . .you guessed it. . .Ethan. (I hear from Lawrence that is.) She is absolutely convinced and will not be moved on the idea that ADHD means "Special Needs," like rides the short bus "special." She even asked Lawrence if they were going to try to mainstream Ethan at school. Hello! He IS mainstream! He doesn't have to wear a helmet to walk or anything! He gets to write with sharp pencils and everything! It doesn't help at all that he acts like a nine year old but looks like a twelve year old, that really just confirms her beliefs. For some reason, I find it very offensive and disconcerting that she thinks my child is retarded. I should mail her his standardize test results showing that he, on average, scores in the high ninetieth percentile. And I find it even more disconcerting that this is STILL bothering me even though she's been gone for a week and a half. Oh well. At least she lives in California, ya know what I'm saying?!?
Thursday, November 16, 2006
mom
Dude, my life has been hella stressed lately. Long story short, and to the fact that I was all hob-nobbing with Lawrence's parents that fact that my mom has been in the hospital since Saturday night. She's got spinal stenosis, seems like, and it's way painful. They gave her three shots of steroids to the spine yesterday plus some kinda numbing shot to boot. If it works, she'll have to have that done every 3-6 months for the rest of her life. So, that's fun. She just got home from the hospital today. I must say, it sure is stressful having to be a fer real single mother. I had to rearrange my work schedule so that I get off in time to be home for Ethan getting off the bus. Then I had to all help him with his homework and shit. What's up with that?!? AND I had to like, watch him all the time, and make arrangements for someone else to watch him when I wanted to go somewhere. What the HELL?!? How do people do it? Lawrence says I better get used to it, because when we have kid(s), this is what'll be like. I told him that this was probably not the smartest thing for him to point out. So anyway. My boss had me sign us up for NetFlix, and he's paying for it, but so far he's let me pick out all the movies, so this is AWESOME. Today, I was watching memoirs of a Geisha (which I still have 45 minutes left to watch, so I can't tell you if it's good or not.), and we got Over the Hedge, Thank You For Smoking, and Sleepy Hollow. It's very exciting, because I had watched all my movies.
Tomorrow Ethan is leaving to spend Thanksgiving week with his dad, and I am looking forward to a vacation. All this parenting has been absolutely exhausting.
Tomorrow Ethan is leaving to spend Thanksgiving week with his dad, and I am looking forward to a vacation. All this parenting has been absolutely exhausting.
Thursday, November 09, 2006
Met the parents
Yes, it's true. I have now met the parents. I was super nervous for weeks, and then yesterday, I experienced a strange calm all day. Then, just as Lawrence and I were driving up to the hotel, my nervousness returned with gale force. But, it all went well. His parent's were pleasant and conversed with me freely. Toward the end of the evening, his dad gave me some bits of advice for living with Lawrence, which I take as a very good sign. His mother finishes everyone's sentences for them. I can definitely tell where Lawrence gets a lot of his traits from. But, all in all, it was a very pleasant evening. During lunch yesterday, Lawrence told me that he had a surprise for me, then later he told me he lied; he didn't have a surprise for me, he had TWO surprises! The first was. . .new glasses! That's right, he snuck around behind my back and got himself new glasses! They are SO SO much better than the old ones, but they'd almost have to be really. He looks so cute in them! Of course, I think he's cute in general, but I might be biased. The second surprise was a splurge purchase. He bought me silver hoop earrings from Jarrod's Jewelers! I couldn't believe it. I think I'm obligated to say, "He went to Jarrod's," everytime someone notices them. At least that's what the commercials would have me believe. I also found out that Lawrence's mom (who's name is Thurza, btw. Thurza?!?) brought with her Lawrence's baby blankets. The one he used, and the one he was blessed in. Their both very nice, but I did wonder at her timing. I said, "Ok, is she just getting them out of her house, or is she planning on them being used soon?" Lawrence said he wondered the same thing, but didn't ask. lol. Anyhoo. All in all, it was a good evening.
Saturday, November 04, 2006
I don't understand
Hey kids. Still haven't figured out the picture situation. Maybe someday I will be able to get that damn post finished.
I'm in something of a mood right now, I must say. I once saw a t-shirt that said across the front, "I can't, I'm Mormon." Now I think that is hilarious, cause, well, lets face it, it does seem that Mormons are prohibited from doing pretty much anything that most people would consider fun. But I read articles about how Utah Mormons got all up in arms about this t-shirt because it made it seem like we WANT to drink and smoke and do the two backed mattress dance, but we don't just because we're told not to. They made the postulation that we deny ourselves, not because we're told to, but because it's the right thing, and they wouldn't do those things EVEN IF THEY WEREN'T MORMON. Um. . .excuse me? Are they FUCKING MORONS? Hi, um. . .those things are fun. Millions of people all over the world do them freely because they are tons and tons of fun, and any sheltered little Mormon idiot who thinks otherwise needs to stay in his or her little bubble forever so that they never have to question their beliefs or see the world for what it really is. And I am in no way trying to bash the Mormon religion here. I believe there are good reasons to avoid those things. I am bashing stupid airheaded Mormons who don't realize that their way of life isn't the only way of life. But, I have diverged from my original point. I had found the original website that sold those t-shirts, and had bookmarked it for the day when I had money to purchase said tee. So I went back one day to see if they had any new stock, and low and behold, the website has been changed to something new. I guess they crumbled under the pressure. Sad.
So today I did a search to see if anyone else was selling this t-shirt, and I did find some. I also found many MANY Mormon bashing t-shirts, as well as numerous blogs, forums, and websites dedicated to Mormon bashing. To all these people I would just like to say, "WHAT THE FUCK DID WE EVER DO TO YOU?" I really really don't understand. Sure, I was raised (from the age of 7) Mormon. But, I had to be converted myself and I am Mormon of my own free will and because I really believe it is where I need to be. My brothers are not participating in the church, and I have no problem with that because maybe it's NOT where they need to be. While I do believe that Mormonism is the most complete religion on the Earth, I don't believe you are going to Hell if you're not Mormon. I believe that Mormonism is only right for some people, and that we do not have the market on truth cornered. I believe that you can be a good person and be doing all the things that you need and be growing and learning as a person and still be Catholic, Methodist, Buddhist, or even atheist. And this is what true Mormonism is all about. Sure I know that they tell us to do the missionary work like crazy, but it's still up to the person who is being taught whether they want to participate or not. It's not a cult, there's no brainwashing, and you are free to join or not as you wish. So why the hell is that SO deplorable that people feel the need to spew hate and venom about us? I'm so upset about this that I am actually nauseous. I don't know why it has upset me so much, but maybe it's because it's so clearly wrong for us to be persecuted like that. I have never hated any group of people on so little basis so much that I feel the need to wear a t-shirt deriding them. Like, one shirt I saw said, "NotMormon: Mormonism, just say no!" Um. . .ok. Just say no. Why go around advertising that you feel that everyone should say no? I just don't get it. When I was in high school and college, I faced many blatant attacks on my religion from kids and preachers of some of the Baptist churches around here. They would revile me and tell me all kinds of things about my church that are simply not true. They would call me names and attack my intelligence. I feel that I have good reason to hate Baptists. But I don't. I know that those were misguided individuals who felt like they were doing what was right to try to help me see the light. I know that not every Baptist feels that way, or would do those things. I would never go around wearing a shirt slandering the Baptist religion. (Although I do sometimes make jokes about Baptists, but only with close friends. I know, I should be better than that. I'm sorry.) Why am I to be hated merely because I choose to belong to a church who places family above work, who places a large emphasis on community service and service to our fellow man, who teaches kindness, forgiveness, and love, who contributed more in the way of supplies and aid after the Tsunami and Hurricane Katrina than any other non-governmental organization(except maybe the Red Cross), who allows people to join as they wish and never coerces people into membership. I just don't get it.
I'm in something of a mood right now, I must say. I once saw a t-shirt that said across the front, "I can't, I'm Mormon." Now I think that is hilarious, cause, well, lets face it, it does seem that Mormons are prohibited from doing pretty much anything that most people would consider fun. But I read articles about how Utah Mormons got all up in arms about this t-shirt because it made it seem like we WANT to drink and smoke and do the two backed mattress dance, but we don't just because we're told not to. They made the postulation that we deny ourselves, not because we're told to, but because it's the right thing, and they wouldn't do those things EVEN IF THEY WEREN'T MORMON. Um. . .excuse me? Are they FUCKING MORONS? Hi, um. . .those things are fun. Millions of people all over the world do them freely because they are tons and tons of fun, and any sheltered little Mormon idiot who thinks otherwise needs to stay in his or her little bubble forever so that they never have to question their beliefs or see the world for what it really is. And I am in no way trying to bash the Mormon religion here. I believe there are good reasons to avoid those things. I am bashing stupid airheaded Mormons who don't realize that their way of life isn't the only way of life. But, I have diverged from my original point. I had found the original website that sold those t-shirts, and had bookmarked it for the day when I had money to purchase said tee. So I went back one day to see if they had any new stock, and low and behold, the website has been changed to something new. I guess they crumbled under the pressure. Sad.
So today I did a search to see if anyone else was selling this t-shirt, and I did find some. I also found many MANY Mormon bashing t-shirts, as well as numerous blogs, forums, and websites dedicated to Mormon bashing. To all these people I would just like to say, "WHAT THE FUCK DID WE EVER DO TO YOU?" I really really don't understand. Sure, I was raised (from the age of 7) Mormon. But, I had to be converted myself and I am Mormon of my own free will and because I really believe it is where I need to be. My brothers are not participating in the church, and I have no problem with that because maybe it's NOT where they need to be. While I do believe that Mormonism is the most complete religion on the Earth, I don't believe you are going to Hell if you're not Mormon. I believe that Mormonism is only right for some people, and that we do not have the market on truth cornered. I believe that you can be a good person and be doing all the things that you need and be growing and learning as a person and still be Catholic, Methodist, Buddhist, or even atheist. And this is what true Mormonism is all about. Sure I know that they tell us to do the missionary work like crazy, but it's still up to the person who is being taught whether they want to participate or not. It's not a cult, there's no brainwashing, and you are free to join or not as you wish. So why the hell is that SO deplorable that people feel the need to spew hate and venom about us? I'm so upset about this that I am actually nauseous. I don't know why it has upset me so much, but maybe it's because it's so clearly wrong for us to be persecuted like that. I have never hated any group of people on so little basis so much that I feel the need to wear a t-shirt deriding them. Like, one shirt I saw said, "NotMormon: Mormonism, just say no!" Um. . .ok. Just say no. Why go around advertising that you feel that everyone should say no? I just don't get it. When I was in high school and college, I faced many blatant attacks on my religion from kids and preachers of some of the Baptist churches around here. They would revile me and tell me all kinds of things about my church that are simply not true. They would call me names and attack my intelligence. I feel that I have good reason to hate Baptists. But I don't. I know that those were misguided individuals who felt like they were doing what was right to try to help me see the light. I know that not every Baptist feels that way, or would do those things. I would never go around wearing a shirt slandering the Baptist religion. (Although I do sometimes make jokes about Baptists, but only with close friends. I know, I should be better than that. I'm sorry.) Why am I to be hated merely because I choose to belong to a church who places family above work, who places a large emphasis on community service and service to our fellow man, who teaches kindness, forgiveness, and love, who contributed more in the way of supplies and aid after the Tsunami and Hurricane Katrina than any other non-governmental organization(except maybe the Red Cross), who allows people to join as they wish and never coerces people into membership. I just don't get it.
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