Well, tonight I went on my date with Lawrence, and it was pretty good. We met at 7 and went for bar-b-que, which was also pretty good. To start the evening off right, I was setting my tray down and spilled my lemonade all over the damn place. So that was great. After that we went for ice cream at Marble Slab, which is always good. He insisted on opening all doors for me. When we first met, I just opened the door and got in, and he came around and made me get out so that he could shut the door, re-open it and shut it after I was in. Seriously. When we got to the resturaunt, I started to open the door to get out of the car and he was like, "AH-NO!" So I closed it and he came around and opened it. He said that his mother is a Southern Belle and ground into him that you always open the door and hold the door for a lady. Weird. He said it's different when people are married and have 2.5 kids to wrangle, but on dates, he always gets the door. It's different, but it's ok. We parted ways at midnight, so that was 5 solid hours of talking. Man, that's a lot. So here's the skinny: He's 40, 5'10, has a receding hairline, has glasses, and is a software engineer. For fun he likes to go to renaissance festivals, learn new programming languages, and paint figurines (the sort used in role playing games). Damn. I guess nerds are alive and well. Oh well, apparently I have more fun with my own kind. :) At least I wasn't worried that I'm out of my league. So, he said that if things go well and we end up dating for a while, he wants to take me to Scarborough Faire in the spring. (That's my paraphrasing, not how he said it.) At the end of the night we hugged, and he put his hands on my waist briefly when he said goodnight. I thought that was kinda hot, for any guys out there that are wanting pointers. All in all, it was a good date. I'm glad I made him take me out. I told him to not hesitate to call me, and he said he would, but it wouldn't be every day or anything. He said he'd probably start out going on dates a little more than once a month. That's slow all right, but that's ok. Oh yeah, and he hates people that live in a Mormon bubble (just like I do), he cusses and thinks that cuss words are just words and people shouldn't be so uptight about it (just like I do), and watches R-rated movies (again-just like I do). These are all things that I usually don't have in common with other Mormons, so that is REALLY good. Those are some deal breakers as far as I'm concerned.
So, I go from a guy that's 9 years younger than me, super hot, wants to be a rock star, way too cool for me, not very reliable, and kinda a jerk, to a guy that's 9 years older than me, really nice, kinda dorky, really reliable, and super considerate. It's weird how I always seem to date polar opposites.
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I think he sounds really nice. I hope he doesn't take things so slow that you lose interest (which I would if he's serious about this once a month thing). But on the plus side, you could get to go to Scarborough for free so that's always good. ;) I agree with the hand on the waist thing...but I disagree with the opening doors being different if you're married with 2.5 kids. I think if he starts out opening doors, he shouldn't stop just 'cuz you're married. Patrick still opens the car door for me...however I don't like it when they make such a big deal out of it that they literally run to get to the door before you or as you said, make you get out of the car so they can open the door...that makes me uncomfortable. But hey, everyone's different. So all in all I think: yay dates!
No, he wasn't saying that he would stop when he gets married, he was saying that when you have kids sometimes it's like, "Ok, you get that kid, I'll get this kid, and then there's not a chance to come open the car door." He was being practical, not rude. And the reason he was making such a big deal out of the door thing was, in his words, "I can see I'm going to have to train you." Eh. The last guy who tried to open doors for me was David, and that was back in 94. It wasn't long before I got that trained out of him. Maybe I'll just let Lawrence do it. Things didn't turn out so well with David. :)
Yeah that's what Patrick said about the 2.5 kids and opening doors, and he's a boy so he probably understands male thought processes better than me. He also said that if the guy really wants to open the door for you that much you should just let him so he doesn't get stressed out. So I guess you already knew all that part. *shrug*
I'm glad it went so well. :) You deserve it.
he's a bit old, but he sounds pretty cool. way less jerkier than jared.
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