I don't think I've told you all this, but I'm not going on the cruise. The reason for this is that I met Lawrence's sister. Although she has told Lawrence that she likes me, she certainly didn't seem to like me at the time. And we all know that Lawrence's mom doesn't like me. Well, when David and I were thinking about getting married, his sisters didn't like me, and one day I was basically forced by his mother to go to a family event. Well, his sisters didn't like me but were polite and tolerant before, when I went to the event, the gloves were off. They were so mean to me, it wasn't even funny. And I told Lawrence that I thought that if I went on his family's cruise that they would resent it, but that if he talked to his sister and she thought I should go, then I'd go. Of course, she didn't think I should go. Ostensibly she doesn't think it's appropriate for Lawrence and I to go on vacation together before we're married even though we wouldn't be sharing a room and they would all be there so it's not like we could DO anything. Also, if Lawrence and I break up, then they'll have all these pictures with me in them that they don't want anymore. Sounds like bullshit to me, but whatever. So, no cruise for me. Lawrence is very sad, but he'll just have to cope.
Also, Lawrence and I had a discussion a couple of months ago where we agreed that we were going to get engaged soon. But, after another discussion a couple of weeks ago, I had to come to the realization that Lawrence is simply not ready to get married anytime soon. So I have to think of him as merely a boyfriend, not as ALMOST my fiance. So if you see anyone that's gonna pressure me and ask when we're getting married, please tell them to bugger off, cause it's something of a sore subject for me right now. Tomorrow's the first time I'm going to church since this epiphany, and since about 3-7 people ask me every Sunday if I have a ring or an announcement yet, I'm not looking forward to the experience. Some fun!
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That sucks. I'm sorry Margie! Should we start looking around for other boys yet or is there still hope? Do want me to send Patrick over to beat him up? He will if you want. *hug*
By "beat up" I mean knock some sense into him.... ;)
Well, there nothing for it. We'll just have to go on our own damned cruise. And come on, taking your friends on a cruise is way cooler than going with your boyfriend's family.
And as for the church busybodies. You should just tell them that you've decided to never marry. That way they'll stop asking (or redouble their efforts, but every plan has risks), and when you DO actually get married, everyone will be pleasantly surprised. Everybody wins! ...just a thought.
I think it's cool that you're being so patient with him. I don't think I could have been that understanding. I think it says a lot about the strength of your character.
Kiera: there's still hope. And no one's beating up Lawrence unless I get to, too.
Josh: When you can afford a cruise, we'll be sure and go on one. And I hear cruises are mostly for the grey-haired jet set, so we'll fit right in. And I think I'd rather punch the church people in the nose. I miss the days when everyone at church was intimidated by me.
shemsi: Wait. . .how many years did you and Andy date before you got married?
Margie: keep in mind that I'm not some kind of Mormon nutcase who thinks you have to get married before you go on a (chaparoned) cruise.
Also, I was being supportive.
I'm trying to decide if you think I'M the Mormon nutcase or his family. :) I appreciate the supportivness. And I must admit, it would be easier to be patient if we could live together and get jiggy and stuff. But still, I don't think I have strength of character, I think waiting is my best option right now. lol.
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